Sun, 2018-02-04 12:38
1. Building Strong Families & forging Great Relationships
Today we are beginning a new series of messages focused on “family” and on “relationships”. We will study God’s Word to (re)discover:
- God’s purpose and design for the family
- God’s plan and methods towards healthier relationships
- God’s intention to help each of us to live more fulfilled lives
We will mesh together God’s instructions concerning the family and also concerning relationships, because:
- Human relationships begin in the family, and
- Families are all about relationships
If relationships within the family are healthy, then most likely, relationships outside the family are healthy too. Conversely, if relationships within the family aren’t healthy, then most likely, relationships outside the family aren’t healthy either.
The family is the cradle of humanity, and the seedbed towards happy and fulfilled relationships.
JESUS ANSWERS QUESTIONS ABOUT FAMILY AND RELATIONSHIPS:
Matthew 19:3–6 (NKJV) The Pharisees also came to Him (Jesus), testing Him, and saying to Him, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?” 4 And He answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? 6 So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”
When Jesus was asked about family relationships, He referred them back “to the beginning”. When they further queried Him about sub-clauses in marriage relationships (breakdown), He repeated His earlier comment and said: “from the beginning it was not so(Verse 8).
In the beginning God stated His original purpose and design for family and for relationships!
In effect, Jesus said to them: “You have deviated from God’s original plan.”
Each time we deviate from God’s original plan about family and relationships we do so to our own detriment.
Its interesting to note that Jesus did not say:
- What do your philosophers say?
- What does your psychologist say?
- What does your relationship counsellor say?
- What does google say?
He said: Have you not read? … and referred them back to the Scriptures!
Then He quoted from Genesis 1:27 & 2:24.
Genesis 1:27 (ESV) So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.
Marriage, according to God’s purpose and design has always been, and will always be between one (natural) man and one (natural) woman.
Genesis 2:24 (NKJV) Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
Both the man and the woman leave their respective parents and be joined to each other in marriage and become one flesh.
KJV: … leave … cleave … (depart and cling to)
- Depart from your parental home
There can only be one king and one queen in each home
- Depart from your parental authority
A married woman can only be submitted to one man – her husband
A married man no longer submits to any demands of his parents but to the wishes of his wife
- Depart from your (primary) emotional attachment to your parents
When growing up, children’s primary emotional attachment is to their parents
- Cling to your spouse and make him / her your primary emotional attachment
Hebrews 13:4 (ESV) Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.
Marriage is the epitome of all human relationships.
A man and a woman are joined in marriage to form the nucleus of the family. Children are an addition to the family.
FIVE BIBLICAL REASONS FOR MARRIAGE:
- For permanent Companionship
Genesis 2:18 (LB) And the Lord God said, “It isn’t good for man to be alone; I will make a companion for him, a helper suited to his needs.”
Malachi 2:14 (NKJV) Yet you say, “For what reason?” Because the Lord has been witness between you and the wife of your youth, with whom you have dealt treacherously; Yet she is your companion and your wife by covenant.
- For Mutual Support & Protection
Ecclesiastes 4:9–12 (NKJV) Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. 10 For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, for he has no one to help him up. 11 Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm; But how can one be warm alone? 12 Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him. And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
Genesis 2:18 (NASB95) … I will make him a helper suitable for him.
The wife helps her husband, and the husband helps his wife.
- For Procreation
Genesis 1:27–28 (NASB95) God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. 28 God blessed them; and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth…”.
Malachi 2:15 (NKJV) But did He not make them one, having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? He seeks godly offspring.“Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth.
- To enjoy Sex (within marriage) and to avoid Sexual Immorality (outside of marriage)
Proverbs 5:18–20 (NKJV) Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice with the wife of your youth. 19 As a loving deer and a graceful doe, let her breasts satisfy you at all times; And always be enraptured with her love. 20 For why should you, my son, be enraptured by an immoral woman, and be embraced in the arms of a seductress?
1 Corinthians 7:2–5 (GW) But in order to avoid sexual sins, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband. 3 Husbands and wives should satisfy each other’s ⌊sexual⌋ needs. 4 A wife doesn’t have authority over her own body, but her husband does. In the same way, a husband doesn’t have authority over his own body, but his wife does. 5 Don’t withhold yourselves from each other unless you agree to do so for a set time to devote yourselves to prayer. Then you should get back together so that Satan doesn’t use your lack of self-control to tempt you.
- To demonstrate the relationship between Christ and the church
Ephesians 5:23–33 (NLT) For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. 24 As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything. 25 For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her 26 to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word. 27 He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. 28 In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. 29 No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church. 30 And we are members of his body. 31 As the Scriptures say, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.” 32 This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. 33 So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.