Sun, 2018-03-18 12:15
6. Building Strong Families & Forging Great Relationships
Subtitle: Seeking & applying Wisdom, Knowledge and Understanding
We are currently moving through a series of messages focused on “family” and on “relationships”.
Proverbs 24:3 (AMP) Through skillful and godly wisdom is a house (a life, a home, a family) built, and by understanding it is established [on a sound and good foundation].
Proverbs 24:3 (NCV) It takes wisdom to have a good family, and it takes understanding to make it strong.
According to Proverbs 24:3:
- It takes skilful and godly Wisdom to build a good family
- It takes Understanding to make a family strong
Repeatedly the Bible speaks about three vital qualities that are necessary to have a good life. These are:
Proverbs 2:1–12 (NLT) My child, listen to what I say, and treasure my commands. 2 Tune your ears to wisdom, and concentrate on understanding. 3 Cry out for insight, and ask for understanding. 4 Search for them as you would for silver; seek them like hidden treasures. 5 Then you will understand what it means to fear the Lord, and you will gain knowledge of God. 6 For the Lord grants wisdom! From his mouth come knowledge and understanding. 7 He grants a treasure of common sense to the honest. He is a shield to those who walk with integrity. 8 He guards the paths of the just and protects those who are faithful to him.9 Then you will understand what is right, just, and fair, and you will find the right way to go. 10 For wisdom will enter your heart, and knowledge will fill you with joy. 11 Wise choices will watch over you. Understanding will keep you safe. 12 Wisdom will save you from evil people, from those whose words are twisted.
What do God’s wisdom, knowledge and understanding have to do with the strength of families and relationships?
The strength of families and of relationships in general is determined by how much of God’s wisdom, knowledge and understanding we learn and apply.
God’s Word, the Bible, is primarily a Book about relationships.
- Firstly, it speaks about our relationship with God through Jesus Christ
- Secondly, it speaks much about our relationships with our fellow man
In particular, the Book of Proverbs is filled with practical truths for everyday living.
- Each chapter has enough wisdom in it with the potential to improve every family and better anyone’s relationships
- Each verse is a pearl of wisdom able to beautify the life of the individual
- One chapter per day over 31 days will bring a positive radical change into the life of those who consistently meditate in its truths
Ben Carson - Neurosurgeon & US Republican Presidential Candidate:
Ben Carson testifies how reading the Book of Proverbs transformed his life from an angry & troubled teenager to a focused, goal-orientated individual.
“I just locked myself up in the bathroom and I started praying and I said, ‘Lord, I can’t deal with this temper.’ And, I picked up my Bible and I started reading from the Book of Proverbs. That was the first day that I started doing it, and I’ve been doing it every day since then because it had all these verses in it about anger, and it seemed like they were all applicable to me.”
God’s Word is like a mirror, it will show whatever faults are in our hearts, and eradicate them from our lives.
Abraham Lincoln frequently quoted from the book of Proverbs. He knew the Bible better than many preachers of his day, and he testified to the wisdom he received from its pages.
The Book of Proverbs belongs to the Biblical Wisdom Literature in the Bible (besides the Books of Job and Ecclesiastes), and was written by Solomon who was the wisest man who has ever lived (1 Kings 3:12).
THREE PEARLS OF WISDOM FROM THE BOOK OF PROVERBS:
- The benefits of a controlled tongue
- The benefits of controlled feelings
- The benefits of minding our own business
- The Benefits of a Controlled Tongue
Proverbs 10:19 (NKJV) In the multitude of words sin is not lacking, but he who restrains his lips is wise.
Proverbs teaches us again and again to restrain our lips and control our tongue. If we don’t, our families and our relationships will suffer.
Proverbs 10:14 (LB) A wise man holds his tongue. Only a fool blurts out everything he knows; that only leads to sorrow and trouble.
- Most times it is best to keep our words to an appropriate minimum
- Many times it is best not to say anything at all
- Sometimes it is necessary to speak up about certain things
- But at all times, uncontrolled speech gets us into trouble, and destroys families and relationships.
Proverbs 17:28 (AMP) Even a fool when he holds his peace is considered wise; when he closes his lips he is esteemed a man of understanding.
Proverbs 18:13 (AMP) He who answers a matter before he hears the facts—it is folly and shame to him.
Proverbs 21:23 (NCV) Those who are careful about what they say keep themselves out of trouble.
- The Benefits of Controlled Feelings
Proverbs 29:11 (NKJV) A fool vents all his feelings, but a wise man holds them back.
Proverbs 29:11 (Msg) A fool lets it all hang out; a sage quietly mulls it over.
Proverbs 12:16 (NIV) Fools show their annoyance at once, but the prudent overlook an insult.
Proverbs 25:28 (NET) Like a city that is broken down and without a wall, so is a person who cannot control his temper.
A man or woman with uncontrolled feelings is a defenceless person.
- The Benefits of Minding our own Business
Proverbs 26:17 (NCV) Interfering in someone else’s quarrel as you pass by is like grabbing a dog by the ears.
The Bible strongly discourages us from getting involved in a meddle that is not our own.
1 Thessalonians 4:11 (NLT) Make it your goal to live a quiet life, minding your own business and working with your hands, just as we instructed you before.
1 Peter 4:15 (NKJV) But let none of you suffer as a murderer, a thief, an evildoer, or as a busybody in other people’s matters.
We should always ask ourselves the following questions when we see, or hear of things that don’t seem to be right, or things that annoy us:
- Is this really my responsibility to say or do something?
- Do I have all the fact that I need to know?
- Is this part of my jurisdiction or is it part of someone else’s?
- Will it help towards the solution, or hinder the solution if I get involved?
- Will I create an additional problem by getting involved?
- Do I have the legal, moral or ethical right or obligation to get involved in this matter?
All the answers and solutions to these questions, and to all other of life’s challenges are found in the book of Proverbs, and indeed throughout the whole Bible.